Connecting with people is one of the fundamentals of being human. We all connect with people, its in our nature. So how does this connection work? My understanding comes to the commonalities between people.
When people first meet, people will make small talk about such questions as where they work and what their hobbies are, anything to try and find a common ground. If one is found the conversation will expand to include more about personal opinions on the common interest.
From here it is common values or beliefs that will decide on whether they become friends or aquaitences.
Now have you ever admired a person or found traits in person irritating or anything along those lines. Well, say hello to everything you admire about yourself, desire to be or dislike about yourself. You like to project yourself on to others, as I do as well. It’s not a bad thing, its great as it shows you who you are.
So what if you want to have a relationship, friendship with someone else. Be an equal!
What are the values that you admire in the person. Make these values your own. Values and beliefs can be difficult to change if you belief they are. If you want to have a relationship with a person at least one core value or belief must be a match. To have a deeper relationship multiple core values and beliefs must be a match.
One interesting thing you might notice is that once you change a core belief or value to one that you admire, people who have that core belief or value will surround you.
So right now, write down a core value or belief you wish to have and believe it. If you don’t know google on how you can do it. And once its changed, watch your equals surround you.
