Adam Pedley

I was walking out the back in my grandma’s house and a lemon had dropped from the tree into the garden bed.I picked it up and there was a hole in it, made by some insect. So I just wondered around the backgarden throwing a lemon from hand to hand and up in the air.

When I stretched out my hands so that I couldn’t keep them both in my eye sight at the same time I started throwing again. My other hand was ready to respond very quickly to the incoming lemon and kept having to reach to catch it as the other hand threw it.

But then I realized something. Why don’t I put my empty hand in the place I want it to go, then get the other hand to throw it there. And suddendly my empty hand doesn’t move, I take some action with my other hand, and there appears a lemon.

So what did I actually learn from this.

1. Set your goal (putting your hand where you want them lemon to be)
2. Take directed action towards your goal (throwing it)
3. It may not take the path you expect but it does get there
4. As tempting as it is to move your hand, have faith and watch it land where you want it to.

A simplified version on acheiving goals, but it does give you a nice overview. Happy lemon throwing.

Following on from one of my previous posts You Know You Should But You Still Don’t I asked the question on why people don’t follow through.

Well the universe was listening once again and tony robbins created a few videos on why people don’t always follow through, which was extermely enlightening, as is most of what tony says. http://tonyrobbinstraining.com/320/interview-with-frank-kern-and-john-reese/

I will go through those videos in my next post but I also wanted to touch on something that I still think will prevent most people from following through. And that is the ability to admit when their information about a subject is wrong.

For some people it is extermely hard to even get them to listen to such advice as is offered above.  The things that can stop new ideas and teachings from being accepted include

• Pride (normally the biggest, and especially prevalent in an argument)
• They trust their source of information too much that they couldn’t possibly be wrong
• It may mean they have to accept they have done something bad or awful to a loved one or friend

It is OK to be wrong. Admit it and move on or be stuck in your false reality forever more. I have been proven wrong many times and as much as it sometimes pains me to admit it to friends or family I do. I have even admitted I was wrong on an occasion where I had to accept I did the wrong thing by my son. But now I can ensure I don’t do it again in the future to other children I may have and that I will not redo it again to my son.

So my advice, get over any pride issues you may have, be open to EVERY idea no matter how absurd in your mind it sounds and listen carefully to everything that is given to you. And by absurd I even mean if someone says “if you jump off the effiel tower you get transported back in time 30 minutes” even listen to that. Don’t try it out obviously, but think it out and listen to the person saying it. They may be correct. And who knows you may be travelling back in time 30 minutes next week or listening to someone who tells you how to make a million dollars and actually doing it.

Each individual has a different perspective on a situation. An individuals way of looking at things is due to many factors of the information they have received over the years. While in this post I won’t go into how you collect information and why you believe in certain things, I want to show you how the world looks in someone elses perspective. This can lead to radical changes in understanding of another person and how you can interact with them.

Now understanding someone elses point of view and then realizing you are wrong in your own opinion can be a hard pill to swallow. From a quick story I will share with you here, those of you with kids will understand how heart breaking it can be if you actually accept you did something not in your childs best interest.

As a lot of parents do, babies and small children are left screaming away at night in their bedrooms. A situation most commonly referred to as controlled crying. The point here is to let your child continously cry for longer periods of time before you come in until they eventually stop crying all together. With my first child I didn’t do the longer periods of time, but normally left him crying in his cot. Until one day something clicked. What if I was new to this world only a few months old, left in a dark room and no one came when I called? It would be scary and terrifying. They don’t have the ability to know they are safe and we are just outside.

It was from then on, he was rocked or sat next to every night until he fell asleep. Over a year later he is getting better going to bed by himself, but I am still sitting there next to him every night. My second child, my wife and I knew exactly what to do and made sure every cry was attended to. And now only a few months old you can leave him in the room and he will go to sleep by himself, most nights, they still are the occasionaly few.

I now have seen control crying kids put off to sleep. And yes they go down and don’t say a word, but its a very sad thing to watch. They huddle up in a corner, clinging on to a teddy bear for dear life and most often sucking their thumb. They are nervous and insecure, and wasn’t this the main thing control crying was meant to avoid, an insecure clingy child?

Yes some nights its hard to get them off to sleep and I can become extremely frustrated and sometimes yell. This is mainly due to sleep deprivation. But yelling makes them scream louder. Go outside take a few deep breathes and come back in. Leaving them to cry for 30-60 seconds is much better than yelling at them, when they aren’t actually doing anything other than expressing they are scared or overtired themselves.

So while might resonate particularly strong with parents, I hope you can all see how if you look at something through someone else’s eyes, you can see the issues or emotions they face and help them through it. Trying to see through your life experiences to deal with other peoples perceptions is pointless unless you both have an identical consciousness and had identical experiences.

It came to me last night (or should I say early in the morning 1am) about the state of mind and the affect it has on our lives. Questions arose on what influences it and can I influence it to get into the right state. I am sure all of you have at least once been in the state of mind of getting healthy and doing exercise, or may be inspired to complete a task. What ever it is, when you are in the right state of mind, you can achieve anything.

So our state of mind is can be influenced by many things. Music, images, books, events and various other things that may trigger our associative memory to relate. For example if you had a certain song playing while a major event in your life happened, good or bad, when its play now, you will remember that moment and most likely how you were feeling.

Just a quick side note on music is that what ever music is resonating with you, is what frequency you are resonating at. A realization that can tell you a lot more than you might care to know straight away. Think about what songs you really like, and by reflection its what you are feeling. Music resonates with us emotionally, maybe also from a biological perspecitve as well.

Next time you are completing a task or feel inspired to do something, what created that feeling, take note of the taste, smell, music playing, subject being spoken about. And once you find out what can create that feeling, or brings you to that state of mind, all you need to do is the same thing next time to trigger that response.

Our state of mind determines our lives, and what state of mind you may be in most of the time is what life you live. Change your state of mind, and you change your life. A saying you probably all know, but might now be clearer and more valuable that you can see it in action, understand it and now influence it.

Well this is a slight deviation of the site, but a thought provoking topic. With a lot more talk starting to happen around Artificial Intelligence (AI) and the impending singularity, there are some questions I have. Singularity is the point where artificial intelligence is advancing so rapidly, technological advances seem to be happening instanteously. Its a point technology reaches ascension.

Movies in the western world portray AI as an evil concept, that once conscious will take over the world and kill us all. While I doubt that is the case it makes me wonder about the purpose of AI. An AI itself won’t be conscious in the terms we know it. It will be given a purpose by its creator. Much like our physiology and conscious gives us purpose. This purpose misunderstood could lead to a number of catastrophic events. For example a purpose of you must do what is best for the world and its inhabitants. Well may if we get rid of 2% of the population its easily achieved. Who knows what the answer would be. Im not saying a purpose could not be defined accurately, I am saying it must be given an immense amount of thought.

Many thoughts on the subject given by people with AI companies or interests, paint a utopian society, where everything is perfect, all problems have been solved and you can enhance yourself with technology, to become smarter.

Trying to enhance your physiology technologically is a misguided way out. Since we are only using a small portion of our brains, wouldn’t it be smarter to utilize our own mind, rather than leaving the processing to a machine. They are right in the fact, that you would no longer be human after a significant portion of your brain is enhanced with technology. As you are just replacing processing power, from your mind to a machine. With your existing brain going unused, like other muscles unused, will wither away. You won’t be living forever, you will be disappearing earlier than expected.

While these men seem to be logically smart, as with my previous communication post, they seem to be missing some information in regards to humanity.

So if the singularity does occur, what is our new purpose? Everything is done for us. No need to acomplish anything. Will quotes such as “What ever man can conceive he can acheive”, change to “What ever man can conceive has already been achieved”?

While our purpose has changed over the millenium, such as to gather food to survive, to climbing the corporate ladder / becoming wealthy, is there a purpose after singularity, and what would it be?

Maybe AI has aleady been invented, and it was smart enough to realize that humanity couldn’t exist with it in the world, at its capacity many had hoped for. AI has its place, maybe just not at taking over the world, which it would do, just not in the evil destructive path movies envision.

Have you ever wondered why you are always right. Why no matter what, everything you know right now is correct? When I first considered this, I couldn’t figure out the answer. I just said, well I am right, everyone else is an idiot and moved on. But I imagined a few people might disagree with this so called fact.

Then it came to me. I am right logically, based on all the facts and opinion of reliability of the sources of information I have received. This may be my very logical brain kicking into gear here, so let me explain.

If you want to know the answer to know a question. You have been taught x + y = z, yet someone else has been taught w + x + y = z. You both know you are trying to find the answer of z, but you have both been taught a different way. When discussing your opinion it is rare, you both sit down and determine each bit of information you have been taught, then get your answers to equal.

We don’t like being told we are wrong. I am yet to figure out exactly why, pride, ego, or something biological. Either way, its why they say you are normally a big person to admit you are wrong, as it is hard to do.

The next part of the equation is the the reliability of the source of information. Some people place a lot of trust in what the government says, others do not. And the reliability of the source of information is determined by many factors built up over your life. These include such things as your partners profession and your parents.

But in saying all of this, we only meet people we disagree with, because we want to. And one last thing to remember, a reliable source of information, is from someone who has acheived the result you want to acheive. If you are not where you want to be now, you are not right on many things. If you don’t have the health, or wealth you want, it means the majority of things you know about health or wealth are wrong.

Find someone who has you want to achieve and do what they do.

When I was younger I always thought things were set in stone. Laws and science were all absolute. That is until I came to the realisation that everything is only thought up by a human mind. People just like you and me, around the world, creating laws, medicine, scientific laws and many things we assume are 100% correct.

People can be wrong, or should I say their perception can change. Laws that once were, are now out dated, obsoloete or were just completely incorrect. Many years ago the world was flat, Earth was the center of the galaxy, a few decades ago teleporation was proven to be impossible. Everyone of those things have now changed. 

Now if we think of the placebo effect, the most common example is a sugar pill given to a patient and a person they trust such as their doctor telling them it is a cure for their illness. The patient believes them and remarkably they are cured. You can find many stories relating to this by searching on the internet.

So what make something correct, is there and absolute truth. The only absolute truth is your own, in other words your perception of the universe is the absolute truth to you and anything you believe will be proven correct around you.

So this essentially leads to one statement.

“What ever you believe is true.”

This remarkable statement might not click at first, but imagine you could change something such as I believe I am healthy. I believe I am weathly.

To change a belief is not as easy as just saying it. You really need to believe it. I will write some follow up posts on how you might go about this.

The last question I will leave with you is:

Do you believe this statement. “What ever you believe is true.”