Adam Pedley

Knowing how popular The Secret is and how I have finally come to understand it so that it works for me, I wanted to share my current experiences with it. Mainly because I see so many people who have watched it, do nothing but the same as they have always done in the past, and then say it doesn’t work. Well I am here to say it does work, and its fantastic.

For those that haven’t watched or read The Secret yet, its a mindset, that has been told and taught for millenium about how you can have everything you ever wanted. Its not actually a secret either, many books have been written on the subject over the past few decades and even books written over a century ago, but have been reprinted.

So the big secret is….. “attraction” and to add to that, “thoughts become things”. Essentially you attract into your life the predominate thoughts in your mind each and every day.

I will leave the rest of the details to the movie, but I will talk about the two ways you could look at it. The most common perception I seem to come across (yes i know) of the secret is its some magical fairy dust that gets sprinkled around and things come to you by just thinking things. The other is, by thinking about certain events, yourself, your subconscious mind and actions will start doing things to head towards that goal.

There are truths to both (minus the fairy dust) and I think they work quite well together. First lets start with the logical side. If you are continuously thinking about how to acheive a goal, you will start to see things that have always been there and new ways to achieve your goal. This can mainly be attributed to your reticular activation system. If you have passion or excitement about your goal you will start enjoying yourself and doing things that help you acheive that goal. Most people who do not yet believe in the secret at the fairy dust level, should at least be able to agree on the second view of things.

Now to the fairy dust. If you study quantum physics, the main thing is, that your observation changes the state of what you are observing. This is one mind bending fact, but it is proven. The best explaination I have come across for this is What the Bleep Do We Know!?.

So what’s the big lesson I have learnt using the secret. Focus only on the end result and what it will be like to have it. Forget the how’s. Most people seem to get hung up on it. “But how can it happen, I just can’t see a way.” You don’t need to see the way, just focus on the end result and all the joy it will bring. Your actions will start moving you towards it, and things will just go your way. I see it happen every day. Now I see it happen with my goals coming into fruition.

How did I get past the non believing stage, I just kept at it. There are so many things logical and mysterious that all point to this fact. So I watched The Secret over 100 times, what the bleep around 50 times and read many other books. It has taken me just over 2 years to finally get to this stage. All I say is keep trying. You will see successes along the way and they will help you build your belief.

Have you ever wondered why you are always right. Why no matter what, everything you know right now is correct? When I first considered this, I couldn’t figure out the answer. I just said, well I am right, everyone else is an idiot and moved on. But I imagined a few people might disagree with this so called fact.

Then it came to me. I am right logically, based on all the facts and opinion of reliability of the sources of information I have received. This may be my very logical brain kicking into gear here, so let me explain.

If you want to know the answer to know a question. You have been taught x + y = z, yet someone else has been taught w + x + y = z. You both know you are trying to find the answer of z, but you have both been taught a different way. When discussing your opinion it is rare, you both sit down and determine each bit of information you have been taught, then get your answers to equal.

We don’t like being told we are wrong. I am yet to figure out exactly why, pride, ego, or something biological. Either way, its why they say you are normally a big person to admit you are wrong, as it is hard to do.

The next part of the equation is the the reliability of the source of information. Some people place a lot of trust in what the government says, others do not. And the reliability of the source of information is determined by many factors built up over your life. These include such things as your partners profession and your parents.

But in saying all of this, we only meet people we disagree with, because we want to. And one last thing to remember, a reliable source of information, is from someone who has acheived the result you want to acheive. If you are not where you want to be now, you are not right on many things. If you don’t have the health, or wealth you want, it means the majority of things you know about health or wealth are wrong.

Find someone who has you want to achieve and do what they do.

If you are feeling down, a little lethargic and don’t know what to do, go for a quick jog. Now before you completely disregard that idea, you don’t need to jog a few kilometers/miles. Just even a quick jog up and down the street will help release endorphins. These endorphins make you feel great and the more you feel great the easier it is to feel better.

You will then have the energy to do some more things, even exercise, which in turn makes you feel even better.

If you are reading this blog, you are most likely the person who is learning and growing and enjoys doing so. Funnily enough not everyone likes to learn and grow, they become stuck in their ways and think they know it all. Family members seem to be great at this. They are the people in your lives that you can’t naturally move away from. So while you attract others and move away from others in your life, family tends to stay rather constant.

Once you begin to grow and change as a person, conflicts will arise with your famliy. Why? Because you are changing, yet your relationship is still based on the old you and your family members. What I see happen from here, with myself, wife and friends, is that a huge conflict comes about. Words and actions are exchanged that cause normally a huge falling out, that you stop communicating with your family members.

But then what happens (eventually) is that communication is reopened in a new way. You can tell things are different when speaking with them, and you will act differently around each other. While there still may be a few rough patches when you start talking to them again and a possible few more minor conflicts, generally you will all accept each other for who you all are now.

Don’t think of this falling out as a huge catastrophy. You are still family, if you were in real trouble they would help, just as you would help if your other family member was in trouble. The bond still remains, just accept things will now be different, you have grown. This isn’t a bad thing, it’s just different.

Parents and older family members will always assume that they know more than you, because they are older and they raised you from a child and you will most likely assume you know more, as most people (including me) tend to think like that. Now in reality, older family members will have more life experience and know things that you don’t, but if you are continually learning and growing you will end up being wiser than them and knowing more things (although possibly different things) than them. Will they ever accept this, not likely, as especially if they are your parents, they raised you from a child, and in their eyes taught you how to be like you are today.

While they did teach you alot, and be grateful for that, you will learn things from other people and sources and if you are proactive, you will know more than them in many ways. An interesting saying I have heard is “if the son wasn’t smarter than the father, then we would all still be living in caves.” Whether you believe in evolution or religion, each generation (with possibly the exception of todays young generation ) is getting smarter.